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The Essential Steps to Rewriting Your Life's Success Story
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Step-by-Step guide
Step 1: Understanding the Choice
Description:
This step focuses on understanding that living a limitless life or a life of limitations is a choice that you get to make.
Implementation:
- Acknowledge that you have the power to choose between living a limitless life and one filled with limitations.
- Recognize that it’s a decision that you make for yourself.
- Understand the distinction between a choice and a decision.
Specific Details:
- Your mindset plays a crucial role in this decision-making process.
- Embrace the idea that you have control over the path you take in life.
Step 2: Embracing Limitless Potential
Description:
In this step, you’ll learn how to embrace your limitless potential and believe in your capabilities.
Implementation:
- Reflect on examples of individuals who have achieved greatness in their fields, like Tiger Woods or Michael Jordan.
- Realize that these individuals were so far ahead because they believed in their abilities and potential.
- Understand that you weren’t meant to be like them but to excel in your own unique way.
- Accept that there’s no real competition when you focus on being the best at what you do.
Specific Details:
- Consider their dedication and self-belief as sources of inspiration.
- Remember that you were born to excel in your own domain, not necessarily in sports.
- Shift your mindset from a competitive outlook to one that prioritizes self-improvement.
Step 3: Believe in Your Leverage
Description:
This step emphasizes the importance of believing in your strengths and leverage rather than dwelling on limitations.
Implementation:
- Identify your strengths and unique qualities that give you an advantage.
- List down the things you excel at and areas where you have expertise.
- Cultivate self-confidence in your abilities and the value you bring to your field.
Specific Details:
- Your leverage might be your skills, knowledge, or passion.
- Focus on how you can use your strengths to make a difference in your chosen domain.
Step 4: Disciplined Way of Thinking
Description:
Learn how to maintain a disciplined way of thinking that empowers you to pursue your goals.
Implementation:
- Develop a mindset where you believe that almost everything within your domain is possible for you.
- Consider that impossibilities only exist if they are outside the scope of your life’s purpose.
- Keep your thoughts aligned with the belief that your goals are achievable.
Specific Details:
- Discipline your mind to stay positive and focused on possibilities.
- Avoid self-doubt and limit-setting thoughts.
- Understand that the key to success lies in your mindset and belief in what’s possible.
Step 5: Making Decisions
Description:
Learn the difference between choices and decisions and how they impact your path to success.
Implementation:
- Understand that choices are the options you have, while decisions are the actions you commit to taking.
- Make decisions that align with your goals and beliefs.
- Commit to your decisions and take consistent action towards your aspirations.
Specific Details:
- Choices are the opportunities you encounter, while decisions determine your course of action.
- Consistency in following through on decisions is crucial for achieving your desired outcomes.
Step 6: Recognizing the Value of Confidence
Description:
Understand the significance of confidence in achieving your goals and living a fulfilling life.
Implementation:
- Acknowledge that confidence is a crucial factor in your success.
- Realize that confidence is rooted in self-trust and belief in your abilities.
- Recognize that lacking confidence can hinder your progress and limit your potential.
Specific Details:
- Confidence empowers you to take action and face challenges with resilience.
- It is essential for achieving your dreams and ambitions.
Step 7: Understanding the Word “Confidence”
Description:
Learn the meaning of the word “confidence” and its connection to trust.
Implementation:
- Break down the word “confidence” into its root word, “confide.”
- Understand that “confide” means to trust or have faith in something or someone.
- Connect the concept of confidence to trusting yourself.
Specific Details:
- Confidence is closely linked to self-trust, which is fundamental for personal growth.
- Recognize that building confidence involves strengthening your self-belief.
Step 8: Identifying Confidence Issues
Description:
Explore the reasons behind your lack of confidence and self-doubt.
Implementation:
- Reflect on moments when you’ve felt a lack of confidence.
- Identify the specific thoughts or beliefs that contribute to your self-doubt.
- Question why you may trust others’ abilities more than your own.
Specific Details:
- Self-awareness is essential in addressing confidence issues.
- Recognize the patterns of negative self-talk or limiting beliefs that hold you back.
Step 9: Changing Your Self-Perception
Description:
Learn how to shift your self-perception from self-doubt to self-assuredness.
Implementation:
- Challenge and replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
- Focus on your strengths and past achievements to boost your self-esteem.
- Practice self-compassion and be kind to yourself during setbacks.
Specific Details:
- Reprogram your thoughts to reinforce your self-confidence.
- Keep a journal of your accomplishments to remind yourself of your capabilities.
Step 10: Negotiating and Affirming Your Worth
Description:
Understand the importance of negotiating for what you deserve and affirming your value.
Implementation:
- Embrace the idea of negotiating for your worth and setting clear expectations.
- Recognize that it’s okay to advocate for yourself and your contributions.
- Affirm your value by seeking recognition and fair compensation for your efforts.
Specific Details:
- David’s negotiation in the story highlights the importance of knowing your worth.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for what you deserve in your endeavors.
Step 11: Taking Ownership of Your Time
Description:
Understand the value of your time and learn to set prices that reflect your worth.
Implementation:
- Recognize that your time is a finite resource, and it becomes more valuable with age.
- Understand that setting prices is not just about making customers happy but ensuring that your time is well compensated.
- Avoid undervaluing your services or expertise.
Specific Details:
- Your time is your most precious asset; prioritize it accordingly.
- Determine prices that make you feel adequately rewarded for your efforts and expertise.
Step 12: Modeling Success
Description:
Learn from successful individuals, like Tony Robbins mentioned, and adopt their belief systems, physiology, and mental syntax.
Implementation:
- Study the mindset and belief systems of high-achievers in your field.
- Emulate their confidence-building strategies and the way they carry themselves.
- Analyze the mental patterns and thought processes of successful individuals.
Specific Details:
- Success leaves clues; pay attention to the habits and behaviors of those who have achieved their goals.
- Apply their techniques to enhance your self-confidence and decision-making.
Step 13: Shifting from Choice to Decision
Description:
Understand the critical difference between making choices and making decisions, especially in the context of building confidence.
Implementation:
- Realize that making a choice is a casual selection, while making a decision involves commitment and action.
- Commit to your goals and beliefs as decisions, not mere choices.
- Avoid breaking your word to yourself by following through on your decisions.
Specific Details:
- Confidence is built when you consistently honor your decisions.
- Transform your mindset from wishy-washy choices to firm decisions that reflect your commitment to self-improvement.
Step 14: Cultivating Self-Trust
Description:
Focus on cultivating self-trust as a foundation for confidence-building.
Implementation:
- Acknowledge that your ability to trust yourself is based on keeping promises and commitments to yourself.
- Start with small commitments and gradually build up to more significant decisions.
- Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, to reinforce your self-trust.
Specific Details:
- Self-trust is the cornerstone of confidence.
- Consistently following through on your decisions strengthens your self-trust over time.
Step 15: Developing Laser Focus
Description:
Learn how to focus on intention rather than distraction, and understand that success is a result of what you focus on.
Implementation:
- Embrace the power of intention by making clear, autonomous choices about your focus.
- Recognize that success is determined by where you place your attention.
- Avoid getting distracted by less important matters and stay committed to your intentions.
Specific Details:
- Focus on what truly matters to you and your goals.
- Remember that success comes from intention, not random distraction.
Step 16: Embracing a Positive Frame
Description:
Learn the art of framing past experiences positively, understanding that events happened for you, not to you.
Implementation:
- Reframe past experiences by looking at them as opportunities for growth and learning.
- Realize that you have the power to change the meaning of past events in your life.
- Understand that your frame of reference shapes your perspective and actions.
Specific Details:
- Transform negative past experiences into valuable lessons and catalysts for your current life.
- Choose to interpret events in a way that empowers you and strengthens your confidence.
Step 17: Creating a Positive Vision of the Future
Description:
Learn how to create a positive and inspiring vision of your future. Understand that the future is not predetermined but shaped by your beliefs and focus.
Implementation:
- Envision a future that excites and empowers you.
- Embrace the idea that you have the power to create your future.
- Let go of limiting beliefs that hold you back from achieving your vision.
Specific Details:
- Your future is not predetermined; it’s a canvas waiting for your brushstrokes.
- Use your imagination to design a future that aligns with your goals and desires.
Step 18: Cultivating Joy and Strength
Description:
Understand the connection between joy and strength, and learn how to maintain a joyful mindset even in challenging circumstances.
Implementation:
- Practice rejoicing in the present moment and finding reasons to be joyful.
- Use your willpower to maintain self-control and moderation in your actions and thoughts.
- Recognize that joy is a source of inner strength and resilience.
Specific Details:
- Joy is a choice that can be cultivated through gratitude and positive thinking.
- Your ability to control your thoughts and actions contributes to your self-control and moderation.
Step 19: Embracing Faith in the Faithful God
Description:
Shift your focus from having faith in faith itself to having faith in God, the One who cannot lie and is faithful to His promises.
Implementation:
- Trust in the unwavering faithfulness of God.
- Replace doubt with faith in God’s word and promises.
- Recognize that God’s promises are truth, unchanging and reliable.
Specific Details:
- Shift your confidence from your own abilities and circumstances to the faithfulness of God.
- Embrace God’s promises as truth and operate as if they are already fulfilled.
Step 20: Meditation on God’s Principles and Promises
Description:
Learn the importance of meditating on God’s principles, promises, and precepts to strengthen your faith and confidence.
Implementation:
- Set aside time each day for meditation and reflection on God’s Word.
- Memorize key verses that encourage and empower you.
- Apply God’s principles to your daily life and decisions.
Specific Details:
- Meditation on God’s Word helps align your thoughts and actions with His will.
- Memorizing Scripture allows you to draw upon it in times of need and uncertainty.
Step 21: Embracing Prosperity as God’s Design
Description:
Understand that God’s original design includes prosperity and abundance for His children.
Implementation:
- Reject the misconception that wealth is inherently evil or ungodly.
- Embrace prosperity as a blessing from God.
- Align your financial decisions with biblical principles of stewardship and generosity.
Specific Details:
- Prosperity, in alignment with God’s will, can be used to advance His kingdom and bless others.
- Seek guidance from God in financial matters and trust in His provision.
COMPREHENSIVE CONTENT
Introduction
Have you ever wondered why some people live a seemingly limitless life while other people seem to live a life filled with limitations? Well, I submit to you that a limitless life or a life of limitations is a choice that you get to make. In fact, it’s a decision you get to make. You’re going to find out why there’s a difference between a choice and a decision, but you’re also going to find out why the people who live a seemingly limitless life live a seemingly limitless life.
The Best of the Best
It seems like the people who are the best of the best are so far ahead of everybody else that people feel like they’re never going to catch up. So, you think about somebody like Tiger Woods in his heyday. Right when he went to a golf tournament, everybody expected him to win. He was number one in the world for, I don’t remember, 150-something weeks in a row, which is more than three years in a row. He was number one in the world. Nobody else has ever even come close to that. But he was so far and away people just decided his opposition, his competition decided if he was playing, he was going to win, which means he decided that for them.
Being the Best
When Michael Jordan was in the league, he did stuff that nobody ever thought about doing before. And so the question is, I’m not going to play basketball like Michael Jordan. I’m not going to play golf like Tiger Woods. But I wasn’t put here to play basketball like Michael Jordan, and I wasn’t put here to play golf like Tiger Woods.
But I was put here to be the king of my thing, and you were put here to be the king of your thing. Or ladies, you were put here to be the queen of your scene. And you can be the best of the best. Forget about the rest. There’s no such thing as competition. You can live a limitless life if you learn to believe more in your leverage than you do in your limitations.
Believing in Yourself
Most people believe more in their limitations than they do in their leverage. And so what they do is they go around proving to themselves that all the stuff they thought they couldn’t do, they were right about it. There’s a different way to live your life.
Possibilities
Now, when I think of what’s possible for me, I pretty much think everything that’s a part of my thing is possible for me. And the only thing that’s impossible for me is that something that I’m supposed to do would be impossible for me. And if you learn that’s a disciplined way of thinking that most people don’t have, like the biggest key to success is not a morning routine.
Conclusion
The biggest key to success is not, “Well, you have to wake up at 5:30 every morning.” Well, I don’t wake up at 5:30 every morning. Now, and in fact, there are some mornings when I wake up at 5:30, but for the most part, that’s not most mornings, right? You know when I wake up?
Usually when I’m done sleeping, right? So that’s like, well, you have to do this, and you have to exercise in the morning, and you have to drink a cup of coffee in the morning, and you can’t look at your cell phone. Like all that’s great. I mean, you.
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Making Decisions
you can set your environment up in a way that you’re more likely to win, but the reality is you have to make a decision, and then you have to learn how to understand the difference between a choice and a decision because here’s what’s not going to happen: you’re not going to achieve anything in your life without confidence.
The Importance of Confidence
What is confidence? Well, the word confidence, the root word of the word confidence is what? Confide. And what does the word confide mean? It means to trust. And so when a person doesn’t have confidence, what it means is they don’t trust themselves. Why don’t you trust yourself? Like, why don’t you have confidence? Why do you believe that if somebody else did it, it would work, but if you did it, it’s not going to work? Is that a good question? My people talk to me, in my page, talk to me. So that’s a good question.
Self-Belief
So, we don’t want to go through life looking, “Well, yeah, of course, they can do it, but not me.” No, but of course, I don’t know if anybody else can do it or not, but I know I can get the deal done, right? Put me in the arena where the battles are being fought, where the awards are being won. It’s so interesting, like I talked about David a couple of weeks ago, right? David, um, to talk about the story of David and Goliath.
And one of the things I didn’t cover in the story was like when David came down, and, uh, Goliath gave David came down to bring food to his brothers, and he came down to, uh, he came down, and he heard the Giant.
Negotiating and Confidence
And then David, before he decided to fight Goliath, he negotiated, renegotiated, and renegotiated again his contract because he said, “What shall be done to the man that slayeth the killeth this Philistine?” Well, he’s going to get the King’s Daughter as his wife.
“I’m gonna be the son-in-law to the king.” Okay, that’s a good start. What else? Well, he’s also going to be the son-in-law to the king. He’s also going to be the King’s gonna enrich him with great riches, and then his family will be tax-free in Israel. Just give me the last one. I don’t need the King’s Daughter. I’ll need, yes, the tax-free one. That’s the one I’m looking for right there, right?
Confidence and Negotiation
And so, after Dave, they told him that he literally turned to somebody else said, “What’s going to be done?” And then somebody else answered him, “After the same man.” Then he turned somebody else said, “Now, I always, I want to make sure before I go fight this guy, I want to know how much my check is going to be.” And see, one of the problems is, one of the problems we think, we think.
Valuing Your Worth
to understand that you’re worth it, but you have to start by understanding that you’re worth it. David said, “I want to know, yeah, I’m going to kill the giant anyway, but since I’m gonna kill him anyway, I want to know how much I’m going to get paid.” And he confirmed it twice after he heard it. Why? Because in the Hebrew culture, at the mouth of two or three witnesses, let everything be established. So now he’s like, “Okay, I got my contract. Now I got my marching orders.”
Count the Commissions
One of the problems, like, you don’t, people, people talk about count the costs, yeah, count the cost, but also count the commissions. Like, how much am I going to get paid? People ask me all the time, like, “How do I know how much to charge for producing a result for a client?” My answer is always the same. You always start with, “Is it a price that makes you smile?” If it’s not a price that makes you smile, it’s too low.
Charging What You’re Worth
Yeah, now see, here’s what your problem is. You thought it was supposed to be a price to make your customer smile. They can smile. Don’t smile [Laughter]. They should be smiling because I’m getting ready to help you, right? But if you’re gonna do it, you don’t have to make it worth my while. Otherwise, I ain’t interested. I got a call from a guy recently, and he wanted me to speak virtually or live at a conference with thousands of people.
He says, “So, how can we make this work?” I said, “Well, you pay for it. If you want me to be there physically, you pay for my air travel. It’s $11,000 an hour.” Um, and I know, “Oh, that’s crazy.” Yeah, you’re just, whatever. Okay, do you okay. That’s mine, and I’m okay not speaking too. Okay, so let’s start there. I’m okay with that’s too much for us. I’m okay with that. It’s $11,000 an hour for me to get there. It was in Las Vegas from Tampa to Las Vegas, $11,000 an hour there and back, whatever that is. Let’s call it five hours there, five hours back, so that’s $110,000 just for travel. That doesn’t include my room because you’re gonna need to get me a room, and my speaking fee is $250,000 an hour. So I’ll come speak. You pay me $250,000. You pay for my travel. I’ll happily come speak on your stage.
Value Your Time
Oh, well, it’s a big stage. We just wanted to give somebody exposure. Well, you can give somebody else exposure. I’m good. I’m good. I got all the exposure I need. I’m good. Now, I’m not saying everybody’s prices need to be that high, but see what a lot of people don’t realize. People think, “Oh, your price is just that high because you think you’re all that in a bag of chips.” No, no, because time is something that I have less and less of every day, and I value my time, whether you value it or not. And by the way, you’re never going to value my time if I don’t value my time, right? So, a lot of you are frustrated because you want your clients.
Making Decisions and Honoring Your Word
that not charging for the results that we produce in our environment is somehow being humble. It’s not being humble; it’s just not being very smart. David said, “I want to know. Yeah, I’m going to kill the giant anyway, but since I’m gonna kill him anyway, I want to know how much I’m going to get paid.” And he confirmed it twice after he heard it. Why? Because in the Hebrew culture, at the mouth of two or three witnesses, let everything be established. So now he’s like, “Okay, I got my contract. Now I got my marching orders.”
Counting Commissions and Valuing Your Time
One of the problems, like, you don’t, people, people talk about count the costs, yeah, count the cost, but also count the commissions. Like, how much am I going to get paid? People ask me all the time, like, “How do I know how much to charge for producing a result for a client?” My answer is always the same. You always start with, “Is it a price that makes you smile?” If it’s not a price that makes you smile, it’s too low.
Charging What You’re Worth
Yeah, now see, here’s what your problem is. You thought it was supposed to be a price to make your customer smile. They can smile. Don’t smile [Laughter]. They should be smiling because I’m getting ready to help you, right? But if you’re gonna do it, you don’t have to make it worth my while. Otherwise, I ain’t interested. I got a call from a guy recently, and he wanted me to speak virtually or live at a conference with thousands of people. He says, “So, how can we make this work?” I said, “Well, you pay for it. If you want me to be there physically, you pay for my air travel. It’s $11,000 an hour.” Um, and I know, “Oh, that’s crazy.” Yeah, you’re just, whatever.
Okay, do you okay. That’s mine, and I’m okay not speaking too. Okay, so let’s start there. I’m okay with that’s too much for us. I’m okay with that. It’s $11,000 an hour for me to get there. It was in Las Vegas from Tampa to Las Vegas, $11,000 an hour there and back, whatever that is. Let’s call it five hours there, five hours back, so that’s $110,000 just for travel. That doesn’t include my room because you’re gonna need to get me a room, and my speaking fee is $250,000 an hour. So I’ll come speak. You pay me $250,000. You pay for my travel. I’ll happily come speak on your stage.
Value Your Time
Oh, well, it’s a big stage. We just wanted to give somebody exposure. Well, you can give somebody else exposure. I’m good. I’m good. I got all the exposure I need. I’m good. Now, I’m not saying everybody’s prices need to be that high, but see what a lot of people don’t realize. People think, “Oh, your price is just that high because you think you’re all that in a bag of chips.” No, no, because time is something that I have less and less of every day, and I value my time, whether you value it or not. And by the way, you’re never going to value my time if I don’t value my time, right? So, a lot of you are frustrated because you want your clients to put a higher value on your time than you do. Can I get a witness?
Making Decisions and Confidence
But I’m not doing that. Okay, it is what it is; it costs what it costs, right? So, what does that mean? Well, like, I set my prices. I remember when I used to do coaching for $5,000 an hour, and I was coaching this guy, a really high-level entrepreneur, like a really high-level entrepreneur, um, in fact, well, just really high, like tens of millions of dollars a year, got kind of a person, and I was coaching him. He’s like, “And he made a lot of money based on some coaching I gave. He’s like, ‘Okay, I want to pay you to teach me how to tell stories. How much you charge per hour for coaching?'” I said, “$5,000 an hour.”
He said, “Good. I just sent you $40,000. I want 8 hours. Eight hours.” And he’s a good dude. I mean, I like him, but I didn’t want eight hours. Now, $40,000, eight hours. I’m like, now I gotta do this, talk to him for an hour every week. Now, I know, I know, I know, Tim, this sounds crazy, but I’m just telling you, my time is more and more limited as I get older. I’m 61 years old. That means like if I’m gonna live for 20 more years and I go on three vacations a year, like I don’t have 20 more years of vacation. I only have 60 more vacations. Like, so, like, I look at everything based on the diminishing return. So I’m like, and literally, as soon as we got off that Zoom, I raised my speaking fee. I mean, my coaching fee to $25,000 an hour. And then like, doing coach $25,000 an hour, sold a bunch of VIP days, eight hours, $200,000. Like, no, it’s too much, right?
Making Clear Decisions and Modeling Excellence
And so, by the way, I’m showing you my thought process. Watch this. Tony Robbins said, and I think he’s right. I don’t think he’s right about everything; I think he’s right about this. He said, “If you want to duplicate any form of human excellence, you need to find somebody who’s performing at a high level in that discipline and model three things.”
He said, “Number one, you want to model their belief systems.” I submit to you that the life you’re living right now is a direct result of the beliefs that you hold right now, beliefs that you hold about the past and beliefs that you hold about the future. So he said, “The second thing you need to firstly model their belief system, the second thing you model their physiology.” You carry yourself the way they carry themselves. Like, if I came in here and I was like this, you would assume something about me. I talk like this, you would assume something about me. If I was shifty-eyed, this is my physiology. I never looked at anybody. If I never looked
anybody in the face, you would think this person can’t be trusted. Right? So, you model their physiology. And then you model their mental syntax. And the mental syntax is the order in which they fire up messages in their brain. For instance, if you say, “The dog bit Johnny,” that has meaning, right? “The dog bit Johnny.” But if you say, “Johnny bit the dog,” that has a different meaning, even though both sentences have the exact same words in them. So what, like, the order that you do a thing oftentimes is as important as the thing you’re doing. Oh, y’all tracking? Okay.
So you have to have confidence. Why don’t people have confidence? People don’t have confidence because they don’t trust themselves. Why don’t people trust themselves? Because the only person who’s heard every lie you’ve ever told is you.
Building Trust in Yourself
Watch this. Here’s the main reason. You told yourself, “I’m going to do XYZ.” Like, this is why New Year’s resolutions are a bad idea. You say, “This year, I’m gonna blah, blah, blah,” and then three weeks in, you stop doing it, right? Because, and the reason you stop doing it is because you made a choice; you didn’t make a decision. I’m going to show you what that means in a minute. And so what happened is you have this wishy-washy way of being, and so you don’t have confidence because you’ve broken your word to yourself so many times in the past, you can’t believe a word you say. I mean, are y’all tracking? Wave at me, my peeps, right?
The Importance of Keeping Your Word to Yourself
And so, what happens is the word, the word “confide,” the root, the prefix “con,” “confide,” um, means with, right? So, with fidelity. By fidelity. With. With is what? With fidelity. What’s fidelity? It’s just like truth. Like, you’re doing the thing. You take the word; you take the word “decide.” There’s “side.” What’s “beside me?” There. Of or from. Side to cut. When you make a decision, you cut yourself off from any other possibility. Somebody said, “So, yeah.” And they thought they were being clever, but they were actually being clueless. They said, “They said three birds sitting on the fence, two decide to fly away. How many are left?” And somebody said, “Well, one’s left.” And he said, “No, three are left because the other two decided they didn’t fly away.”
No, if they actually decided, they would have flown away because they cut themselves off from not flying away. Now, if you said, “Two, three birds are sitting on a fence, and two choose to fly away. How many are left?” Well, now, three are left because a choice means the word “choose” just means pick one. If I’m picking one today, I can pick a different one tomorrow. And what happens is people go around picking one that feels the most comfortable in the moment, that feels the easiest path in the moment. You can’t live a limitless life like that. People who go out and change the world, they literally have a reality distortion field that is so big that it doesn’t matter that other people tell them it’s impossible. David’s brother said, “Oh, what are you doing down here? You just came down to see the battle. We know your pride and the naughtiness of your heart.” David said, “What have I now done? Is there not a cause?
Like, y’all are hiding; I’m gonna go fight this dude. Why are you fussing at me? I ain’t the problem; he’s the problem. Y’all the problem; I ain’t the problem.” But see what happens for people who are unwilling to change a situation, the people who are willing to change the situation are the problem to those people because now you’ve got to live with yourself after you see that your next-door neighbor go do the thing that you’ve been talking about doing for the last 10 years. Can I get a witness?
Making Clear Decisions and Modeling Excellence
So, and most people don’t make decisions; they make choices. But if you’re going to be a person of honor, you need to learn to make decisions because to decide is to make a covenant with yourself. Remember the word “covenant,” right? So two people come together; they would kill an animal; they would walk in a circle; they would cut their hands together, bind together with the rope. The word “covenant” means to cut, and they would make a promise on their life saying, “If I don’t keep my word to you, may what happens to this animal happen to me?” What if your word, the things you say, became a covenant that you make with yourself?
So now you can trust yourself because you’d rather die in honor, keeping your word, than live in dishonor and not keep your word. I mean, like, the game would change for you forever because now you don’t go through life sticking your toe in the water that could elevate your ship and take you to a place you’ve only dreamed of in the past. You don’t stick your toe in that water anymore; you dive in the water. And then you start building your ship after you’re in the water; you figure it out on the way. And so if you’re gonna have a limitless life, the first thing you need to do is you need to have, like, you need to have a very determined and clear focus.
Now, by the way, everybody focuses. So here’s the difference between people who succeed and people who fail. People who succeed, so success goes on this path. People who succeed, they focus on intention, which means I, me, I decided in my autonomy what I’m going to focus on. I didn’t have somebody else decide that for me. I didn’t have—I don’t go to the restaurant; I say, “Hey,” they say, “What would you like to order?” I don’t know; tell me what’s good. No, I already know when I go to the restaurant; I bring my appetite with me, and I know what I want to eat, and I don’t want the server telling me what they like because I might not like this. I mean, there are people who like stuff I don’t like; there are people who like lima beans. She might like lima beans, and then she might say, “The lima beans are…”
Focus on Success and Failure
But people who fail, they’re focused, but guess what they focus on? They focus on distractions, literally, literally. The difference between success and failure is people who succeed focus on intention, people who fail focus on distraction.
And what’s really interesting is it doesn’t matter in which direction they look, they’re still focused on the same thing. A person who succeeds, they look back to the past, guess what they see? They see intention. Oh, that thing happened to me to get me ready for the thing I’m now doing. That thing happened to me to get me ready for the thing I’m going to do. So I’m not a victim. I’m not a victim of the thing that happened in the past. I’m a product of the thing that happened in the past.
Using Past Experiences as Catalyst
So now, so, I just, I just, uh, finished this book yesterday. I’ve been, like, going so. I was at this Mastermind in Mexico, and a guy speaking there, his name is Dr. Benjamin Hardy, and he’s the co-author of “Who Not How” with Dan Sullivan. And so, “Who Not How” is a book that basically the premise of that book is like if you’re focused on trying to figure out how to do the thing that’s missing in your business, in your life, and your whatever, you’re focused on the wrong thing. You shouldn’t be focused on the how, you should be focused on The Who.
So, a lot of people are focusing on how do I sell more of my stuff? Before you do that as an entrepreneur, like, time out. Why don’t you figure out who you should be selling to in the first place? Like the who, for, like, who should I be selling to is way more important than how do I sell because the who you’re selling to is going to determine how you sell, right? But most people never, like, and, and, believe it or not, coaching thousands of entrepreneurs, the hardest thing for them to decide is who they’re going to help and how they’re going to help them. How do you have a business like you have to know that? You have to know who you can help. You have to know how you can help them. You don’t know those two things, like, you’re just, you’re a wandering generality. Thank you, Trudy, you’re funny.
Change Your Perspective on the Past
So, so, so, you need to have Focus. So you need to focus on figuring out how to turn everything in your past into a positive Catalyst for your current life, for your current experience of life. So what does that mean? That means you have to look at everything that’s happened in the past and realize that none of it happened to you, and all of it happened for you. So fascinating to me when I read the story of Joseph because the story of Joseph affected Joseph negatively. It affected his father negatively. And the same experience when Pharaoh asked Jacob, he said, “So how old are you?” or Jacob asked Jacob, “How old are you?” He said, “Um, um, few and not.” He didn’t use the word terrible. He said, “Few and miserable,” or something like that. “Have been the days of my life.” Really? Really?
That’s few and miserable, really, have been the days of your life? You got a beautiful family, yeah. I get it. Your boys, your brothers tried to kill you. I get all that. But like, you’re putting the wrong frame around it. Frames create Focus, do you understand? You can’t change what happened to you in the past, but you have every ability whatsoever to change what it means to you. You can decide right now. I used to think, well, I’m gonna use myself as an example. Not that I really thought this, but I’m gonna use it as an example so you can understand it. Like, I’ve got six brothers, they can all run. I had Polio, I’ve got this brace on my leg. I can’t run. I used to think, well, God doesn’t love me as much as he loved them because they could run and I couldn’t run. Or I could think, well, God loved me more than he loved them. That’s a joke because he made it so I couldn’t run. So I learned how to fight, right? Right? I could.
That, I mean, that could be it, right? Or I could just say, “Watch this,” right? Like, I’m deciding the frame. I could say, “Look, God ordained in his Sovereign.” I’m not saying God did this to me, but he ordained this for my life and his Sovereign will before eternity ever began because God knew, in order for my brain to speed up as fast as it needed to speed up for my assignment, my body needed to slow down, right? Like, where do the meanings come from that you have on the situations in your life? You know where they come from? Like, well, you decide. You decide where they come from. Joseph said about the very same things, the very same things, except maybe the stuff that happened to Joseph was worse than the stuff that happened to Jacob because his brothers, his own brothers, oh, his big brothers, they wanted to kill him. They threw him in a pit and left him there.
And then some Midianites came and took him out, and then they sold him into slavery. Like, and then he’s doing a good job at Potiphar’s House. Potiphar’s wife lies on him. He goes to prison for a crime he didn’t commit. Like, like, what would your attitude be? When I get out of here, I’m going to show everybody, right? Not him. Joseph just made sure wherever he was, he honored God to the best of his ability and did the best he could with every situation. And guess what happened? Here’s Joseph’s testimony of those same experiences. God has made me fruitful in the land of my affliction. Do you understand? If there is no Affliction, there can be no fruitfulness. There is no strength without struggle. There’s no advancement without adversity. There’s no Destiny without difficulty. We got to go through something to get to something. But in order for us to go through what we were designed to get through, we have to look at the past and assign a different meaning to it.
We have to focus on how it helped us. Yes, it was painful, but it helped us. It set us up for where we are right now and where we’re headed in the future. So when I look at the past, I use it as a catalyst to compete to propel me into my bright future, as the reason, as instead of the reasons why I’m stuck in this terrible present. First of all, the present isn’t terrible. Why? Because unto him that is joined to all living, there is hope, and a living dog is better than a dead lion. That’s what the scripture says. A dead lion can’t even roar.
Focus on the Future
So, so, we have to have Focus. We have to have Focus. But focus by itself is not enough. We, by the way, let me talk about, let me, let me say this about Focus. What our focus on the future, our focus on the future determines our actions in the present. So I’m going to tell you something now. I’m going to tell you something. If you live mostly focused on the past and trying to keep things the way they were, you are literally performing an exercise in futility because the only constant in life is change. So how can my life get better because of the change, and how can I take advantage of the change instead of me fighting to try to keep things from changing? Are y’all tracking? Now, when I look to the future, I have to make sure that, like, first of all, when I look at the future, am I seeing something that’s real?
Or am I just, like, do I get to see something that’s there, or am I just seeing it in the eyes of my imagination? Where am I looking at the future? I’m looking at it in my mind, which means I’m the only person who determines what the future looks like to me. Are y’all tracking? Because I made it up. I made it up. Anything I tell myself about a future outcome, I made it up. Well, if I’m going to make up outcomes about the future, stands to reason that I might as well make up outcomes that serve me and Empower me instead of making up outcomes that disempower me and don’t serve me because I’m making it up. I’m making it up. I mean, I’m going to build a 100 million dollar business, okay, but I made that up. I could never make a hundred million dollars. That’s a, I made that up.
Do you understand? We’re making it up as we go. You might as well make up something that inspires you, that challenges you, that charges you, that energizes you. So you can move in that direction. It’s so fascinating. It’s so fascinating. By the way, this is biblical mind psychology. Like, I’m not, I’m not, like, that’s, it’s in the Bible. Rejoice in the Lord always, and again, I say rejoice. That’s one of the most redundant verses in scripture. Re means to do again. So it says, Rejoice again, have joy in the Lord when always and again I say rejoice, or, and again I say again, have joy. Why is he telling us to have joy? Because the joy of the Lord is our strength. When we have joy, we have strength.
When we have sorrow and depression and sadness, and we’re focused on all the things that are missing in our lives, we have discontentment and a lack of gratitude, and that discontentment and lack of gratitude, it doesn’t get us more of what we desire. It causes us to lose the things we already have. When Adam and Eve focused on what was missing, they lost all the abundance that they had. The same thing is true today. That was true back then.
Conclusion
Well, anyway. So, so, here’s what it says, though. Here’s what it says. In, so it says, uh, rejoice in the lord always, and again I say rejoice. Let your moderation be known unto all men, for the Lord his hand. So it’s saying be joyful, but then the same be willful. Let your moderation, what’s moderation, self-control, let it be known unto all men. So how do I do that? Well, the Lord is at hand.
The thing that we’re supposed to use our willpower for is not to make ourselves do something. The thing we should use our willpower for is to remind ourselves that the Lord is present. Because when I use my willpower to remind myself that the Lord is present, then I have joy. Why? And his presence is fullness of joy. Why? Now I’m empowered. Why?
Because I know who I am based on Whose I am. Because when I’m with him, he shows me who I am. Because my identity comes from him. I don’t have the identity of the world. I don’t have the, my identity of Myron. I have the identity of God. I am who he knows I am. How are you all tracking? So what we want to do is we’re going to make sure that we’re operating from that place where when I’m looking at the.
Focusing on Empowering Future
Future, I’m drawing on a future that’s empowering me. Wrap your mind around this: focus on the future, focus on a future outcome that empowers you, and that will give you strength. How do you know that focusing on a future outcome that you desire empowers you in the present? Because it says it in Hebrews chapter 12. Wherefore, seeing we are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses.
By the way, that’s not talking about people up in heaven watching us. Let’s talk about their testimony to us about the benefits of having faith, whether we experience the benefits of that faith in this life or whether we don’t because it says some die having died in faith, not having received the promise, right? So we know that everybody having faith, faith does what faith does. Faith makes my life better. It doesn’t always make my circumstance better. Just know that, okay? And we’ve all believed for somebody being healed, and that person wasn’t healed. We’ve all believed somebody was going to, like, be healed, and they died. We’ve all had that experience.
Why? Because it is appointed a man once to die, and after this is Judgment. God is Sovereign, and there’s no prayer I’m going to pray opposing the will of God, and it’s going to be answered with a yes, okay? So just understand, understand that.
Laying Aside Burdens
So, so when I look to the Future, wherefore, we’re seeing where it comes about what’s so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight. Guess what that word weight means? It means burden. So I’m supposed to put down every burden and what? Lay it outside every weight. And the sin that does so easily beset me, what’s the sin? The sin of Doubt. Because the whole chapter leading up to that was talking about faith. So the sin that so easily beset me is the sin of Doubt. Beset means to stop.
So the sin that stops me is doubt. And then it says, so how do I do that? How do I put down the weights? How do I lay aside the sin that will so easily beset me? I do it like this: looking unto Jesus. That’s what it says next, right? The author and finisher of our faith. Now, that’s not the key in that passage. You want to know the key in that Passage? Look into Jesus, author and finisher of our faith. Here’s the key: who, for the joy that was set before him, gave him the ability to endure the cross of his present, despising the shame, and is now set down on the right hand of the Throne of God.
Focusing on Joyful Anticipation
So Jesus himself, the scripture says, he focused on the joyful anticipation of the outcome he desired more than the current pain of the present circumstances. And when I learned to intentionally focus on the joyful anticipation of the outcome I desire instead of the anxious apprehension of the outcome I don’t desire, then I have the power to endure. So Focus.
Faith in the Faithful God
I’m going to give you the other two, and I don’t have time to go into them right now: faith and follow through. So faith is not… see, one of the reasons your faith is so wavering is that you have faith in faith. You need to stop having faith in faith and start having faith in the One who is faithful. You need to start having faith in The God Who Cannot Lie and then operate as if everything he told you is truth, not just true but truth. There’s a difference between what’s true and what’s truth. What’s true is, um, Myron’s in Tampa. That’s true, but it’s not truth because later this month I’ll be in Orlando.
I’ll no longer be in Tampa, which truth cannot change. So God cannot lie, and if he said something, it is what it is. And so here’s what I’m going to end on. Here’s what God told me in his word. He didn’t whisper in my ear; it was in the book, Psalms one. “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord, in his law and his principles and his promises and his precepts and his practices, in his laws that he meditate day and night. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of waters that bringeth forth his fruit in his season.
His leaf also shall not wither, and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.” Prosperity is a Bible word. It comes straight from God, and I love prosperity. God is a god of abundance. If you want to know God’s original design for wealth, you need to check out that video I did on why evil people are rich. Video title: God’s original design for wealth. Hope this blesses you. Stay blessed by the best in the meantime, in between time. Peace out, Cub Scouts.